Like most years, 2018 came and went in a hurry. It was an interesting year, to say the least, and a lot has been learned about our society, and it’s my hope that everyone learned a bit about themselves as well—I know I have! I’ve done some reflecting on the events from the last year and compiled a list of perspectives gained from my experiences. In sharing them, I hope our readers find some commonality in my understanding of the world and gather insights on several interesting topics about life, human nature, philosophy, society, and so on.
Keep in mind that I’ve gradually become jaded over the years and my perspective is often pessimistic, so many of you may disagree with what I say…but I hope you do! My perspectives seem to evolve the longer I spend time on this planet and change when provided with new bits of information that challenge or disprove what I already “know” (hopefully you’ll provide your thoughts and challenge me in the ‘comments’ section below!).
A major part of personal growth stems from keeping an open mind while gathering information from multiple point-of-views. Understanding these differences in ideologies/perspectives can help us to identify potential holes in our own logic and set us down a path of further understanding and wisdom.
So, without further ado, below you will find a list of perspectives gathered from my experiences during 2018 (let it be known that everything in this list applies to me specifically and I am speaking in generalizations):
- None of us created the world’s problems—we merely inherited them.
- Social media and the news fills us with false perceptions of the world around us.
- Deep down, regardless of what their FB, Twitter, Instagram, etc. accounts say, everyone is struggling in some way on the inside.
- No one is fine.
- One person is not capable of changing the world on their own. We need a collaborative effort.
- We are all ignorant because there is no way to know everything (unless you’re me, of course…wink wink). With that in mind, we must be patient when encountering others’ ignorance because they may not have the same knowledge as ourselves.
- In my experience, it would seem that everyone thinks their way of life is somehow better than others and their way of thinking is the correct way. I’m convinced that no one has the answer or secret to life.
- Given the size of the universe and how much time has passed since man first learned to walk upright, we know a whole lot of nothing.
- Us humans are incredibly small in comparison to the universe or the gods we may believe in. Yet, in our minds, we feel really big/important.
- Some conformity is necessary to build an efficiently functioning society (but we cannot remove free thinking…we cannot become too much like ants).
- No matter what anyone says, no one is above making mistakes. Even though I try to be a good person, I am still a human being which makes me susceptible to animalistic imperfections (just like everyone else out there). It’s what we do after the mistakes that matters most.
- Making mistakes will only make us stronger in the long run so long as you know that you can overcome just about anything with enough determination and strength of will.
- Sometimes, it’s really hard to be the bigger person.
- Pride and anger are two of our worst enemies.
- We must harness anger and use it productively while simultaneously swallowing our pride.
- Comfort and complacency stunt growth (we’ll elaborate more on that in an upcoming article!)
- Doubt is damaging to our self worth.
- Our pasts do not define who we are now and don’t determine our futures
- A healthy amount of guilt, pain, anger, and remorse are necessary if we ever really want to improve ourselves. Nothing will improve if we don’t ever feel some discomfort.
- I don’t think most people are out to intentionally hurt others…most pain is caused inadvertently.
- It is nearly impossible to be considerate of every single person’s feelings when making a decision. The best we can do is make the best decision possible with the intent of not hurting someone. Even then, people can and will get hurt one way or another.
- The pain caused to others can better them too but that’s not to say that we should go around hurting people!
- Forgiving yourself is harder than forgiving others.
- Forgiving others can be pretty hard too, but necessary to keep moving forward.
- Alcohol is a reason, not an excuse.
- I owe some people an apology, but I’m afraid to reach out because of pride and shame…
- Sobriety makes people think clearer—no question about it. Try going a few weeks without a drink and prove me wrong…
- Most of the bad things I’ve done and problems I’ve encountered in my adult life have been because alcohol was involved…there’s probably a correlation there (either I should stop being an adult or stop drinking, hmmmmm…).
- To get what you want in this life, you need to put in the work…and have a little luck.
- Excuses are nothing more than words used to justify poor decisions and bad behavior.
- They also hinder our ability to assess our own faults.
- As I near my 30th birthday I’ve found that youth is definitely wasted on the young and it is both forgotten and misunderstood, at best, by the old.
- Even though my body continues to age, I still feel like a teenager in many ways. I’ve become somewhat wiser but my brain thinks I’m a young man stuck in an old person’s body.
- Many people out there are quick to point fingers at others because that’s an easy thing to do…A lot of us are looking for someone to blame (our leaders, our gods, other people) and are often misguided at who/what we are pointing the fingers at. Mostly, we need to point the finger back toward ourselves. One of my favorite quotes is from the movie V for Vendetta when ‘V’ says, “If you’re looking for the guilty, you need only look into a mirror.”
- We’ll have more on this thought in an upcoming article!
- Despite what most people say, most people are selfish and will go through crazy lengths to protect their self-interests.
- People are primarily motivated by greed, self-preservation, and sex.
- Don’t let people convince you otherwise.
- Many people only focus on the few bad things you do in your life even though you do good, or don’t get caught, 99% of the time.
- That fact says a lot about people and their inability to forgive and their willingness to throw your friendship/relationship aside over a mistake.
- If it’s that easy for people to judge or villainize over a few mistakes then it says a lot about their character.
- But to be the bigger person, sometimes, you have to just wait for others to forgive you.
- Our insecurities come from a number of places, but I think they are there because we consistently judge others…if we think poorly of others, we become insecure about how others think of us.
- Standardization stifles art and the ability to think freely, essentially creating a hive-mindset among civilizations.
- I need to put the damn phone down…life isn’t contained or restricted to some small, electronic box.
- We can never truly know someone else because we are all hiding our inner most thoughts, desires, and secrets—we don’t share these with others in fear of being ostracized. Could you imagine what would happen if these thoughts were conveyed to others?
- Societal norms force censorship upon others (sometimes that’s a good thing).
- We cannot make everyone happy all the time so don’t fret about it.
- Right and wrong are completely subjective and circumstantial. Think zombie apocalypse or impoverished areas where humans are forced back into a world of survival and a lack of resources. The morals we live by now (in the U.S. at least) would be eradicated and a new set of morals would usher in—the rules of survival would trump the current rules.
- You thinking you’re doing what’s right may be wrong in someone else’s eyes.
- I’ve heard people say that you shouldn’t have to “try” to be a good person and that you should just be one, but that’s not right considering the above statement.
- Conditioning, mental instability, genetics, tribal tendencies, instincts (because we’re animals and sometimes we forget that), and mankind’s inability to adapt to change hinders the process to becoming what is accepted as being a “good” person.
- We, here in the United States, are spoiled—especially the rich and the dissolving middle-class.
- Money and want are the roots of all evil.
- If everyone ceased their consumeristic ways and just took what is needed, the world would be a better place. But don’t let anything or anyone fool you, everything other than the necessities are for cosmetic and superficial purposes.
- “The more I have the more I think I’m almost where I need to be—if only I could get a little more.”—the Avett Brothers.
- The above quote couldn’t be truer.
- The powers that be, on any side, don’t really give two damns about you and me…
- …just like you and me don’t really care about those who suffer more than us. We are far too self-absorbed. We only do things to help so long as it doesn’t inconvenience us or somehow makes us feel better about ourselves.
- If we truly truly cared, we’d give up the things we have and sacrifice/dedicate our lives to the issues. I can’t imagine what the world would look like if everyone stopped being so selfish.
- Also, many of us don’t give a shit until it happens to us. I didn’t care about cancer at all until someone I loved dearly was diagnosed, then ultimately passed from it. Still, to this day, I don’t do much of anything now to help others inflicted with this disease except donate change that won’t break the bank because it no longer affects me on a daily basis (except for having to survive the loss of my loved one). It saddens me that many of us revert to our selfish ways knowing how much others suffer.
- I hope when my strength returns and I’m finally done grieving and being angry that I drop my selfish ways and help those who need it.
- Men and Women are both liars and thieves, of sorts (men probably more so…).
- Karma is a bunch of nonsense. Nice, decent, and good people almost always finish last (unless you believe in a hell but that’s a conversation for later!)
- No matter what, life goes on with or without you.
I’d like to close this article by listing the most depressing revelations I had during 2018 but I promise I’ll end on a high note…
- I’ve realized we’re all slowly running out of time (some are running out faster than others).
- If you have love in your heart let it show while you can.
- There is no cure for death.
- I can finally admit that I’m terrified of dying.
- I’m afraid of not getting the things done I still want to do before it’s too late. I don’t want to leave this earth without feeling a sense of fulfillment.
- I’m afraid because I’ve concerned myself so much over what people think, but it’s hindering me from living the life I want…because in the end, what does it matter so long as you aren’t hurting others (intentionally at least).
- I’m also afraid because I grew up in a religious home with many other religious influences around me…what if I’m wrong and Hell is real…(I’ll never believe in such things again but it doesn’t mean I might not be wrong).
- I don’t know the answer to the greatest question of all time, “Who am I?” And I don’t think I’ll ever know…the man I see in the mirror changes every other day.
- Side note: how can I trust others when I can barely trust myself?
- Last depressing thought but not the least—since the day I was born I’ve known what consciousness is. I do not know what it is like to be without it, and that (death) is terrifying. Basically, I’ve tried living and while I’m dying every day, I don’t know what it’s like once I get over that hump.
Life is such an interesting and funny experience when you really think about it. There’s so much to do and so much to learn! All I can say is that this list will continue to update and change and I hope it is for the better.
I’d like to say cheers to our readers for surviving last year and all the years before! I’d also like to toast all the years to come! Let us find wisdom and understanding and live our lives to completion so we have no need to fear death. Here’s to a happy 2019!
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