Taking selfies was never my thing. The practice seemed reserved for those who crave feeding their egos. They’d post smiling selfies in celebration of their glorious lives or sad ones to show their resilience to adversity. All of this, so a group of cheerleading strangers would give them an un-caring thumbs up.
The words selfie & narcissistic became synonymous.
But that was before I took one and thought about posting it…
It may sound silly, but it has taken me weeks to put this collage out there (scroll further to see). After examining my first snap I thought, ‘Meh, I don’t like how I look. I’ll take a better one.’ Soon, I became obsessed with finding the perfect shot.
I took pics from several angles, dimmed the lighting in my room, and changed my shirt three times, but none of them met my expectations. No filter, camera position, or backdrop could stop the camera from accentuating what I believed to be my faults. It didn’t matter what I did to alleviate my doubts, I critiqued myself to no end and ultimately came to the conclusion that I’m not good-looking enough.
I’m sure some of you are shaking your head going, “You have no reason to think that!” Unfortunately, I often do. Building self-confidence has been a journey and maybe putting myself out there can be my rite of passage into the realm of positive thinking.
So now, nearly a month after settling for an ‘Ok’ photo, I decided not to let my fears control me.
Self-doubt has influenced my decision-making for longer than I care to admit.
It’s partly the reason I don’t post more articles or provide additional content because I question my efforts in everything. Each sentence is meticulously examined and many articles are in the trash bin because I’m too hard on myself. Doubt is the reason I look down when I walk and is why I struggle to maintain eye contact when I talk.
There’s an unrecognizable voice in my head giving me a million reasons not to do something. It brings my fears to the front of consciousness, reinforcing thoughts of rejection, criticism, and susceptibility to bullying. It’s torturous, and I’m tired of hearing it. I’m tired of listening to it and letting it control me.
I need to start listening to the encouraging voice that tells me the one reason I should do something—the reason I wanted to do the thing in the first place.
This article was never about taking selfies. It’s about drowning out the doubt that holds you back.
This is about revealing to myself, not those who see my post, that I love me in spite of my insecurities. I don’t want praise for so-called bravery or any validation for putting a picture of myself out there (still feels kinda narcissistic…). I’m posting this image as a giant middle-finger to the evil voice that says I can’t. I’m telling my fear that I won’t be tamed, that I won’t let it stick me in a bubble of self-doubt and low self-esteem!
This is my first step in finding freedom from the restrictions created in my mind. For you, it may be different. But I’m exposing myself to my vulnerabilities and escaping my comfort zone to combat hesitation and doubt as I can’t keep living in my own limitations.
I think the first step in overcoming doubt is just taking the leap. Fear must be faced and if you want to do something, do it. The voice telling you not to, in most cases, is a liar and wrong and you should pursue what makes you happy. It will be uncomfortable at first, but I think we’ll all realize it’s not as bad as our minds make it seem. We just have to get our feet wet!
There’s really nothing holding you back, other than yourself. Don’t let fear limit your potential!
I understand that some post selfies for non-selfish reasons or to tell the world, “Hey! I’m here! And I love me and don’t care about what you think or have to say.” I want you to know I’m down with that 🙂
Second, Post a selfie of yourself in the ‘Comments’ section! Tell fear you won’t be held back by it! Or, if you have thoughts on today’s article, please let us know what you think!
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